This quilt comes mostly from my own feeling of being erased. I have a family member in an abusive relationship and I, and others in my family, have been erased from this family member’s past.
An abused person's life before the abuser is often in effect "erased." Friends, hobbies, interests, family, passions, dreams, etc are all expunged. The abuser may even destroy or throw away old photographs and photo albums that show the person’s life before the abuser. They might gaslight in order to implant their own narratives about the past. Memories, momentos, photos, relationships, whole histories. All gone.
Someone can feel minimized or become a shadow of themselves as a result of abuse, and their abuser may also work to erase their memories or erase them from others' lives. Their lives can be distilled down to appeasing the abuser at the cost of all else.
This erasure not only affects the target of the abuse but also those family and friends who have been "erased."